The bad always comes to the forefront but the good is always hiding right behind it. There is good in everything if you look hard enough. When looking at other people you can look at what to do and what not to do. What about them do you like and what do you not like? Adopt or avoid these traits in yourself. In failure you can look at what went wrong and how you can make it better. In success you can look at what went right and replicate it. See things as they are and see how you can improve in every situation.