No one is going to tell you what you want. You have to figure this out yourself. You must decide on where you want to live, what kind of job you want, the people you develop relationships with, how to take care of your body.
If you do not decide this then you will not know how to make decisions. There must be a destination or else you will end up going down random paths. You may end up with a good happy life or you may not.
If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail!
Benjamin Franklin
The moment you say “I can’t.” The moment you blame someone else like your boss or the government. The moment you doubt yourself. You are giving all your power to what you are blaming.
Do not give up your power and control so easy.
If you want something do whatever it takes to get it. Your mental state and how you live your life is one of the most important things you have control over. Too many times we often give up this control without realizing it.
Take ownership of your happiness. Take full responsibility of your life.
What is your number 1?
What is the most important thing in the entire universe?
There can be different priorities in your life in different categories like health, wealth, happiness and love.
Each one of these areas has one thing that is more important than anything else. Your job is to figure out what this one thing is that has the biggest impact in your life. People and jobs will tell you what your priorities should be but this is their priorities not yours.
Use the Jerry Seinfeld Strategy.
Jerry gave a strategy for writing better jokes but the strategy can also be used to improve at anything you want to.
Everyday build a habit of working on what you want to improve. Have a calendar and mark an “X” on the day you work on your goal. Build up streaks of X’s and do not miss a day.
Why do you want it?
What needs to be done to get it?
“What is the ONE THING that will give you the most results and make everything else easier or unneccessary?” – Gary Keller
Now that you know what to do and why you want to do it. Schedule a time to work on your ONE THING. During this time nothing else matters. You are to focus 100% on your ONE THING. After you complete your ONE THING move one to your next ONE THING.
Read the ONE THING here:
The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results
Why do you want what you do?
Why are you going to a job everyday?
Why are you not where you want to be?
Why are some people happy and some sad?
Why are some people successful and some not?
Why are some people fat and some healthy?
Why do some people have happy relationships and some don’t?
If we start with why then we will know the what and how to do it. They why is the driving purpose behind what we do on a daily basis. With a small why we will not pulled as much as a huge exciting why.
Your why affects your decisions, actions, behaviors, habits and focus.
It is your rallying cry.
It is your motivation and inspiration.
If you are not happy with something then change it.
Do not tolerate things and actions that do not align with who you are and where you are going.
If you don’t like your job then change it. If you do not like your friends then change them.
To be where you want to be you have to take the actions and create the habits that will make you become the person you want to become. Things will not magically happen. You must make them happen.
Take daily action. Focus on where your going. Limit distractions.
It’s not what you do.
It’s why you do it.
Do not get bogged down in the what. It is uninspiring and will not bring you joy. There will be no context or passion. You will go through your day accomplishing tasks just to call them complete. You will not go the extra mile and will not continue to learn and grow.
Making massive breakthroughs and innovations starts with why. Your mindset will change. Your goal is bigger than the means. You may find a completely new and better way to do things.
You will be driven by purpose and people will be able to connect with you on a much higher level. They will be able to identify you because they know what you stand for. They know why you are doing what you are doing and will want to be apart of it.
Why are home cooked meals better than restaurants?
Why is a home made gift better than a bought one?
People will prefer things with imperfections if they know where they come from. If you buy a birthday card it will come with a beautiful message in it. If you buy a blank card and write your own message it may not be as well written but it will be more beautiful because it came from you.
If you do things the right way and do not cut corners the reward will be greater. You will have peace and comfort that you did things right.
