- Avoids Pain
- Seeks Pleasure
This is how you and everyone else operates. If you are willing to sacrifice short term pain for long term pleasure then you will be successful.
Category: Mindset
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Blog #247 – Be in the driver seat of your emotions.
We often hear that emotions are like a roller coaster and we are just along for the ride.
I would say that emotions are more like driving a car. You do not have control of the road but you have control over the car. You are able to steer and avoid potholes or you are also available to put the car on autopilot like the rollercoaster.
Once you take control and responsibility of yourself. You are free to travel on your favorite roads and avoid your least favorite.
If you see a fork in the road choose the path to happiness.
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Blog #246 – Are you giving yourself opportunities to win?
Determine your standards for what is acceptable.
I am harder on myself than anyone else. This lets me handle criticism well but is not good for self acceptance.
Sometimes the standards we set for ourselves our unachievable. We can have huge enormous goals but we also have to have micro goals. These micro goals give pleasure and momentum through small wins. Eventual enough small wins add up to big results.
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Blog #245 – Know your why
The actions you take always have a motivation behind them. It is your job to know yourself well enough to know why you do the things that you do.
Every little thing that you do has a reason behind it and too many times the reason is, “That’s the way it’s always been done.” or “That’s the way I was taught.”
Be curious in finding out your true motivations and you may take different actions and be more fulfilled.
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Blog #244 – Finding Meaning and Purpose in what you do.
The beauty of life is that meaning and purpose are not given to you. You have to find them.
It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.
EpictetusWe can not always control the results of what happens but we can control our actions and our reactions to the results.
If you do not know why you are doing something then re-evaluate and find your motivation.
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Blog #243 – Dopamine Kicks
Your brain is designed to be easily distracted. The first humans needed to be aware of a rustle in the bushes because it might be a tiger jumping out to eat them.
This means when we are focused on our work any text, email, call can distract us from the task at hand. With smartphones and computers in front of us we know where to get little hits of dopamine. Once we hit a road block on the work at hand we have our patterns and outs to run to.
The distractions are endless and if you do not focus and work on your focus then you will not accomplish anything.You must be able to sit with the uncomfort and solve your problems.
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Blog #242 – Are you on Autopilot
Most of what you do on a daily basis you are on autopilot. When you wake up, snooze (or not) your alarm, drink coffee, drive to work, park in the same spot, go to your desk, the way you say hello, the way you respond when someone asks, “How are you?” , driving home, getting ready for bed. All of these you do the exact same thing every single day.
Doing the same thing saves mental energy but we can fall into habits. Some good and some bad.
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Blog #241 – Questions for a crisis
When you are in a challenging situation ask yourself these question to get over it.
What is good about this problem?
What can I learn from this problem?
What is great about this problem?
What is not perfect yet?
What am I willing to do to make it the way I want?
What am I not willing to do to make it the way I want?
How can I enjoy the process?
If you ask yourself these question then you will be well on your way to achieving enjoyable results.
*Questions from Tony Robbins
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Blog #240 – Born in the USA
This is the land of opportunity.
If you have a dream then this is the place you want to be. In no other place do you have a chance to control your own destiny as much as you do here in America.
You have all of these rights and privileges because there were tons of people who fought for you to have them.
The people who disrupt the status quo will be met with resistance.
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Blog #239 -Stop Looking At Your Competition
When we are lost we look around at people to see what they are doing. We will see what they are doing and then either be motivated to step up our game or demoralized. Either way you need to stop looking at what others are doing and focus on what you are doing.
Stop looking at social media and wishing you had what they have.
Be grateful for your own life and take advantage of the opportunities in front of you.
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