Fix yourself first.
Do not worry about anything else but yourself at first. Just like in a crashing airplane, you are told to apply your own oxygen mask before helping others.
The more you are able to handle your own business the more you will be able to give and contribute to others.
Create good habits and limit bad habits. If you are working at your 100% then that energy is contagious and others will join you.
People can be influenced easily by the masses. If someone is unsure of what to do they will often look to see what everyone else is doing and they will do that. This can be good or it can be very bad.
In the book, Influence by Robert Cialdini, it talks about how after a public suicide is highlighted on the front page of the newspaper then the number suicides will go up. These are the people on the edge and then get validated. This is a drastic example of social proof but I think this could be why school shootings are up.
We look to those around us for how we should act and what we should do.
You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
Jim Rohn
Check out the book below to learn more.
Know yourself better than anyone else.
Know your behavior. What makes you hurt? What make you feel good?
Know what you want.
Know who your friends are and who your enemies are.
Know that change can happen in a moment. (We are now in isolation from a virus)
Know that your values and beliefs will be the sail that directs your life.
There are many distractions and traps out there. Everyone is fighting over you attention. They want you to look at their profile, to like their picture, to buy their product, to see their show or for you to give them your attention. Your attention and focus are the most valuable thing you have.
How good you are at focusing is a predictor at how long its going to take you to finish something. If you know you are easily distracted then do what you can to eliminate distractions. Turn off notifications.
Start with short bursts of focused attention. Set a goal to focus on something for 5 min and no longer. Use interval focus to make progress. Keep making progress and it will become a lot easier.
The action of reciprocation is a powerful human instinct.
If someone gives you something then you feel obliged to return the favor. The funny thing is that the person you give something to doesn’t even have to like you. If you give them something then they will likely return the favor in even greater value.
People do not like to feel like they are in debt to people.
A small gift can get big returns.
Ask for more than what you want.
It is human nature to want to negotiate and make deals. The price given is never the final price. There is always room to barter and negotiate.
If you are a salesman then start with you most expensive items first. The customer will see these enormous price tags and be blown away. Then show them what they really want. When they see this more average price it will feel like a whole lot less than just going with the average price first.
This strategy is to be used for ethical purposes only.
When trying to influence people there are two things you must accentuate.
This is how sales people and marketing people take advantage of the unsuspecting consumer.
No matter what life is going to have ups and downs. There will be pains and pleasures.
All of the pain is a given.
The success and pleasures are up to you. These feelings are not given. You have to go out and take these. You have to make these happen. This is what it means to live a life with no regrets. Even if things do not work out you want to be able to say you gave it all you got. You went after your dreams. You didn’t make excuses.
You might as well fail doing something you love.
What is the good in this?
If you are experiencing something painful then what can be good about it?
Everyday we follow the same mental patterns. We think the same thing and have the same feelings. People have tenancies to be angry, upset, frustrated, stressed, depressed. Some people have tendencies to be happy, fulfilled, excited, and loving.
We must recognize what are tendencies are and if we don’t like them then change them.
I am committed to being happy! I figure out what makes me feel good and do that. I figure out what makes me angry or bored and avoid that. Do more good and less evil!
What metaphor you use for life with change how you see the world.
Life is a BITCH!
Life is like a dance.
Life is art.
Life is a war.
Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re gonna get.
Each one of these metaphors will give your life a different meaning and cause you to take different actions. Whatever you think life is you will play into the story that you have given your life. The mind will make you right. If you say life is a blessing then you will act like it and be grateful for every moment you are alive.
Use metaphors to your advantage to make your life more exciting, playful and meaningful.
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