To be a better you then you need to hang out with people better than you. You need to know everyone around you. You need to know their name and what influence they have on you. You need to know what motivates them (pain, pleasure, significance, certainty, uncertainty, growth, love or contribution). You need to notice how the people around you feel and how they treat you. You need to employ empathy and understanding. The more you understand your surroundings the more you will understand yourself and vice versa.