How is your quality of life?
For me the quality of life is equal to the relationships I have, the place I live, the impact I have on others, the health of my mind and body, the work I do and the money I make.
To increase the quality of my life I focus on one of these areas.
If you are not selfish you will get what is left over not what you deserve. First you need to know what you deserve. Know everything about your self, your actions, and your results. When you know the impact you have, you can be selfish to ask for what you deserve. This gives you the foundation for negotiations. There can be disagreements but unless you are fighting for yourself then you will be defeated.
Even before you were born there is a path already laid out for you. There are people like your parents pushing you in directions that you should go. These people may have different priorities in mind than you. Most likely their number one priority is your security. They want to keep you safe. Since these people have a huge influence on your life you listen to them and take their advice. You take their advice until you reach a point where you are at a place you don’t want to be. Here is where you have a choice on which road to take. Do you continue down the safe and secure path or do you take a chance on a path that will make you happy? If you begin to prioritize your happiness over security then your decision making process will change. Instead of thinking with your head you lead with your heart. Just know that whichever road you take you can be smart about the decisions you make.
There is my passion I pursue everyday and there is my work I get paid for. It is my goal to combine my passion and work. I can do this by adding more passion to my work or by adding more work to my passion. Anyone can do the former but the later is much more challenging. The first is a change in your attitude. This can be done by finding things you enjoy about your current work. What can you accentuate, get better at, and enjoy? Where can you place your focus to find more joy?
When adding more work to your passion you are adding things that you don’t like. This means learning more skills that are not your passion. Skills like making money, marketing, management, accounting, and other business skills. The better you are at business the more you can turn your passion into work.
Either way you have to know your worth, know where you want to be, learn and grow.
The chicken crossed the road because the chicken thought the other side of the road is better. The same is for people. People take action because they think that things will be better if they do. Very few people do things because they want to make things worse. Whether conscious or not the natural state is to make things better so people will take action to make things better. The more you do something the better you are going to be at doing it. The pathways in your brain will reinforce this method. The ideal can be up to you and you will always move towards this ideal. Make a conscious ideal and you will go places you want to go and do things you want to do.
If you want to do anything just show up. Showing up is the first step to building momentum. Show up to the gym. You may not feel like going but just show up. Once your there you will work up. Show up to your job. You may not feel like working but once your there you will work. Show up to the family function. You may not feel like going but once your there you will have fun. Show up to your creative space. You may not feel creative but once your there you will create. Showing up is the minimum amount of effort you need to put in to make progress and build momentum.
Growth is painful. Growth is not found from the couch or sipping a cocktail. Growth is getting out of your comfort zone. Growth is becoming the person you want to become. Growth is dedicated practice at something. In the moment this growth can be painful but also the most rewarding thing that life has to offer. The moment you do something you’ve never done is the moment you feel like a super hero. You can do the impossible and you are a better person than you were before. This growth is like a drug where you want more and more of it. The feeling gets addicting and energy flows through your body like a rush. Enjoy this growth because you have earned it. Not everyone experiences this feeling because they don’t work as hard as you do.
There are only so many opportunities you will get in your life so when they come make sure you are ready for them. These opportunities disguise themselves as problems or challenges. They are usually something you have never done before so you must be willing to take the leap into the unknown. Taking an opportunity will make you grow immediately. You will be brighter, wiser, and people will notice something is different about you. You are not a person who waits you are someone who goes out and gets what they want. Unless you take the first opportunity you will not get the next one. You will never write a second best selling book unless you write your first book. Welcome and take the leap at opportunity or else it will always be lingering over you. The best solution is to get it done. No matter what the outcome is. Celebrate the courage to take a chance and learn from it.
What is one thing in your life that if it happened you would want to tell everyone you know?
Maybe you move into a house do you want everyone you know to come check it out. Maybe you got your dream job and want to let everyone know about it. Maybe you got to meet one of your hero’s. Maybe you won the lottery (might want to keep that a secret). Maybe you are getting married or having a baby. Maybe you accomplished something at work. Maybe you are healthy and fought off a virus. Maybe you have a new skill and want to share it with others.
There are two ways to do things. The first is rushing trough things and not being present. This way mind wonders and the only thing it wants is it to be over. The best example for me would be doing laundry. I do not want to do the laundry so I try to finish it as fast as I can and often my mind is thinking about being somewhere else. I am not happy because I am doing laundry and I would rather be doing something I enjoy much more. This leads into the second way of doing things.
The second way to do things is to do them like something I enjoy. I am taking happy action because I actually enjoy what I am doing. I take my time and enjoy every second just like listening to my favorite song. I lose concept of time and it flies by. The key is to take Happy action all the time.
Time is the most precious gift so why waste any of it trying to rush through things. I want to be happy and enjoy all the time I have. I want to bring happiness to all areas of my life. Even to actions as mundane as doing laundry. I know I have to do chores but I don’t have to suffer doing them. I can bring presence to my life and always be taking happy action.
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