Anything you want to do more or less of needs to be measured. If you want to be healthier track your food and calories. Look at how many times you goto the gym in a week, a month and a year. Only from these numbers can you track the changes you want to make.
This is done for us in financials. We can look at our bank account and see how much money we have.
In your relationships track how many dates and conversations you’ve had with that person.
Then based off whether you want more or less you can increase or decrease these numbers. Every week my phone tells me how much time I’ve spent on it. This is one thing I use in my life to manage my screen time.